Today’s Prayer: Faithfulness

Father, in the name of Jesus, thank you for your faithfulness. Thank you for being “faithful to us when we are faithless.”  As we move forward into the new year, help us to remain faithful as we lean on you for all things.

Your word tells us, that “many have unfailing love, but a faithful person who can find.” Oh God, help us to remain faithful to your Word! In these difficult times we are living in, cause our hearts to remain faithful unto you regardless of the obstacles we will face.

Your word tells us a “faithful man will abound in many blessings.” Teach us to be faithful in the small things so you can trust us with much.

Lord in your parable of the talents, as the master was pleased with his servant, we ask that you be pleased with our lives so when meet you face to face we will hear those blessed words, “well done, good and faithful servant; you were faithful over a few things, I will make you ruler over many things. Enter into the joy of your lord.”

We thank you. In Jesus NameAmen.

Scriptures
II Timothy 2:13
Proverbs 20:6
Proverbs 28:20
Matthew 25:21

Marriage Lessons (12-week series)-Week 4

It is week four of the marriage lessons. I pray you are being encouraged as you read each post. To read the last few lessons, please follow this link. This week’s post is short, sweet, but important!

I apologize for not posting yesterday, (Monday, is my usual day), but my husband and I were taking advantage of Lesson 4!

Lesson 4. Never stop dating (make your spouse first)

It is very easy to become an “old married couple” so you must work hard at not allowing it to happen. When we first meet someone, we love being with them…all the time! We want to spend every moment with them and we are sad when we must leave their presence. However, once we are married and life changes such as children, in-laws, careers, church and everything else, we can put our spouses on the back burner and before you know it, you are not doing the things you once did.

To maintain the closeness in your relationship, it is important to take time out of your schedules and have a date. It does not have to be an expensive trip, but if you can, please do! The point is not the expense, but the time you put into being together. This keeps the romance alive and allows your friendship to grow. Take time to date at least once a week. Rekindle the fire you once had or rather do not allow the fire to go out.

My husband is busy a lot, however, one of the things he enjoys doing is driving, especially long distances. At least once a week we just get in the car and ride. We have our most intimate conversations in the car. Yes, there are times we go to a restaurant or museum or stay the night out in another city, but there is nothing better than those times we spend together just talking.

There is nothing better in your marriage than your spouse giving their most intimate part of themselves to you and that is their heart. Treasure it always.

My Lesson Learned
1. Never stop dating
2. Date like you did when you first met
3. Make your spouse a priority

Your Lesson
1. Never stop dating
2. Plan a quick getaway with your spouse

 

 

Marriage Lessons (12-week series)-Week 1

Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love. Make every effort to keep yourselves united in the Spirit, binding yourselves together with peace. – Ephesians 4:2-3

Marriage is wonderful! I can honestly say for the last twelve and a half years, I have been happily married…mostly 😊. In those twelve years, I have learned a lot about marriage through some advice, but mostly trial and error. Over the next twelve weeks, I will share with you twelve of the many lessons I have learned so far. I hope what I have learned will help you avoid some of the pitfalls I fell into.

Lesson #1-         Talking and communicating are not the same thing

I got married on Saturday and we had our first quarrel on Monday. Yup…Monday.
We started out talking and laughing and it was nice. As I continued to talk, it seemed my husband was no longer interested in what I had to say. It appeared as if he was spaced out or rather his head was in another place. I immediately got upset. I thought, we just got married and you are not interested in having an important conversation with me? I felt hurt and rejected. Instead of explaining how I felt, I let my hurt do the talking. I got up, threw a pair of pants at my husband, and walked out of the house. My husband had a look of bewilderment on his face. He couldn’t believe I could get so angry, and neither could I.

In a moment, we went from a friendly conversation to an angry exchange. Not long after our exchange, I went back home. When I got there, I sat down and shared how I felt. I told him I was hurt because it seemed he was no longer interested in talking. Right after I said that he apologized and said he started to experience severe back pain which is why it appeared he wasn’t interested.

Truth is both of us were guilty of not communicating our feelings to each other. We quickly learned we had to work on our communication skills and I had to work on my deep seeded issues with rejection (that I thought was over). We forgave each other and had a great rest of the night.

My Lesson Learned
1. Talking and communicating are not the same.
2. To communicate effectively, you must know your mate, and this takes time. Be patient      and gentle during the learning process.
3. Do not walk away angry but deal with the real issue at hand.

Your Lesson
1. Do not assume your spouse can read your thoughts. Say what you are feeling.
2. Use wisdom regarding when to share your feelings because timing is everything.
3. Pray, wait, then talk. Communication is something to work on each day.

Prayer
Father…In the name of Jesus. Thank you for my spouse. Help us to speak the truth to each other in love always. Lord, when I am angry, help me not to sin. Cause me to have self-control over my actions, attitude, and tongue. Help me to use a soft word as it turns away wrath. I thank you for our commitment to stand together in you. In Jesus Name, Amen.

Scripture References:
Ephesians 4:15
Proverbs 25:28
Ephesians 4:26